We all deserve to be nice to ourselves.
New Year's Resolution: No more beating myself up.
https://socialanxietyinstitute.org/positive-thoughts

Many people don't understand how we use cognitive-behavioral therapy at the Social Anxiety Institute.  See our articles and explanations online.  CBT must always be done gently, one step at a time, and there is no "facing your fears" as part of it.  No stress, no pressure.   I have been reading the latest research concerning memory, and will try to get it across in the next few weeks.  My post yesterday was about repeating and reinforcing rational beliefs to yourself, using self-talk, in a systematic way.  From my experience working with anxiety people, it is the consistency that's lacking sometimes. After all, it is very difficult to stay consistent when you're by yourself and don't have the support of a group around you.  We will try to help everyone stay more consistent with therapy because the brain actually does change -- and when it does, you act differently automatically.  NO MORE ANXIETY!!!    :D
https://www.socialanxietyinstitute.org/why-cbt-works-social-anxiety-disorder

People fail to overcome social anxiety because they don't stick with it. Cognitive therapy is not hard, but it takes daily, consistent learning and reinforcement to become rational. Research indications are that you learn new habits in two months if you systematically work on doing them each day. Keep a journal and keep working on your anti-anxiety therapy.
https://www.socialanxietyinstitute.org/blog/cognitive-behavioral-therapy-social-anxiety-makes-physical-changes-brain

You don't need everyone else's approval for everything you do. You are entitled to your own values, beliefs, and ideas.
https://www.socialanxietyinstitute.org/you-are-not-inferior-others

Live in the present moment. The past is dead and gone, and the future is dependent on the present. Focus on and live in the present moment. Happy Holidays!!
https://socialanxietyinstitute.org/positive-thoughts

Anxiety is adrenaline and cortisol in the body. We must slow the flow of adrenaline and cortisol down, and make a habit out of doing this. Good therapy for social anxiety teaches you all this.
https://socialanxietyinstitute.org/control-life-cognitive-therapy-social-anxiety-disorder

Which of your beliefs is irrational and which ones are not? You need to know the truth. We all need to get rational with ourselves, discover what the rational truth is, and then reinforce and repeat it to our brain so that the truth becomes an automatic habit. This will change your life.
https://socialanxietyinstitute.org/control-life-cognitive-therapy-social-anxiety-disorder