Tuesday, March 11, 2014

Notice and congratulate yourself for your progress as you systematically work against social anxiety. Be honest and nice to yourself, as you take daily steps against social anxiety.


Friday, March 7, 2014

Be careful about what you say about yourself.What you say about yourself is believed by your brain. If you say you're no good at something, the brain believes it. Question your old irrational beliefs. Are they really true? Or have you been blowing things out of proportion?

Thursday, March 6, 2014

Everyone is welcome to take part in the Social Anxiety Forum.
Some of the latest topics being discussed:

When it's not all in your head = bullying
Being Extra sensitive
Being more social
Are You an Only Child?
Having a quiet voice in public
Shyness vs. social anxiety
Hanging out with people at school
life with SA and how I’m starting to overcome it
Starting Up Your Own Behavioural Group


Thursday, February 27, 2014

Rational thinking changes the way the brain operates physiologically. Cognitive therapy helps us to think more rationally.

Wednesday, February 26, 2014

In the Social Anxiety community forum, Dave tells of his life and about overcoming social anxiety:



Tuesday, February 25, 2014

Shyness and social anxiety are not the same thing.  Recent research confirms they are two different conditions.


Monday, February 24, 2014

Friday, February 21, 2014

The new social anxiety forum is up and running.   Everyone is welcome to read and participate. 
Our goal is to stay proactive and help each other overcome social anxiety.
 Go to:


Thursday, February 20, 2014

We have several dozen practical cognitive strategies, that when acted upon, help people overcome social anxiety. As you make progress, less anxiety in one area means less anxiety in other areas, too.


Wednesday, February 19, 2014

Too much thinking (overthinking) and too much trying to figure out why we are "this way" (overanalyzing) keeps us stuck in the vicious circle of social anxiety. Stop all the attention you're paying to your thoughts and get your thoughts focused on something else. Be proactive!


Tuesday, February 18, 2014

We can relax and calm ourselves down anytime. It's hard to do at first, but as you keep focusing on calm, peaceful things, it becomes easier.
Calmness is the opposite of anxiety. 


Friday, February 14, 2014

"Overcoming Social Anxiety" means learning to face situations that cause great amounts of fear and anxiety -- without having anxiety about them any more. Thousands of people live life now free of the bonds of social anxiety

Thursday, February 13, 2014

Each one of us is valuable and deserves respect from ourselves and others. Open your brain up to rational thinking if you have a hard time accepting this. Only by keeping an open mind can you find out what is really true and really accurate.


Wednesday, February 12, 2014

Join in, put yourself out there, step by step; other people are not as rejecting as you think. In therapy, we prove this out to ourselves.

Tuesday, February 11, 2014

Friday, February 7, 2014

One way of reducing anxiety is to take the initiative and talk to other people first. This is paradoxical because it seems that taking the initiative would cause more anxiety. Try it, though, and you'll find that your anxiety goes down when you take the initiative and greet other people first. This is because you've taken control of your emotions, and the rational you has DONE something that directly opposes social anxiety. It's what you DO that changes your life.

Thursday, February 6, 2014

Calming ourselves down is the first step toward overcoming social anxiety. Therapists should teach short, workable ways to do this. You are in control of your brain, not the other way around. All that you may be missing is the understanding that you CAN calm yourself down in anxiety-provoking situations.

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

When I had social anxiety and pulled up to a traffic light, my self-consciousness would go on high alert and I was so self-conscious that I couldn't look around. I just knew that other people were looking at me and judging me, that they didn't like me for some reason. I tensed up my muscles and endured the anxiety, which would give me a headache if it happened too much. Being on display or feeling that everyone is staring at you negatively is always irrational. In therapy, we get you to prove to yourself what is actually true in a situation, and what isn't. For example, IS everyone in the room looking at you and do they have hateful expressions on their faces? You'll never know until you look around and find out the truth (i.e., what is rational in this situation).

Tuesday, February 4, 2014

High levels of self-consciousness, a symptom of social anxiety, is irrational and unnecessary. We must learn to prove this out to ourselves. Self-consciousness is irrational. These feelings are not based on rational fact. https://socialanxietyinstitute.org/mike

Monday, February 3, 2014

Focus externally on other people and other circumstances in your life. Stay away from going into your head and worrying, doubting, and fearing. Focusing externally allows you to calm yourself down and pay attention to the present moment. Focusing externally reduces anxiety and helps us get into the habit of paying attention to other things instead of our internal, negative, irrational thoughts. https://www.socialanxietyinstitute.org/focus-externally

Friday, January 24, 2014

Runaway, racy negative ANTs thinking should be caught, stopped, and labelled as being untrue. This is the first step in learning new thinking habits. Catch, stop, and label the ANTs for what they are. Then, find something better to do and get your brain away from negative thinking.

Thursday, January 23, 2014

The Social Anxiety Mailing List being e-mailed to approximately 10,000 people right now. This list features a new article concerning the differences between shyness and social anxiety disorder.
If you are not on the monthly mailing list, you can sign up here:

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

Your beliefs and thoughts CAN be changed. It must be done in the right way because we only want PERMANENT changes in the way we believe and think. The brain is malleable and "plastic" when it comes to making changes. Automatic negative thinking can gradually change into rational thinking.

Tuesday, January 21, 2014

Avoiding situations and circumstances is what keeps the horrible feeling of anxiety in control. How to reduce anxiety? Stop avoiding everything, but proceed in only a gentle, step by step approach. One small step at a time. No flooding, no big amounts of anxiety. https://socialanxietyinstitute.org/step-by-step-progress-against-social-anxiety-disorder

Thursday, January 16, 2014

Social anxiety interferes with one's ability to do many things in life, from basic to advanced. It can make us appear less proficient at tasks than we really are, and it can restrict our ability to open up to others emotionally.

It also keeps our focus on our anxiety, rather than on the tasks that are before us. It interferes with our feelings of self-worth and self-love, and causes us to "automatically" think lesser of ourselves, sometimes without us even being aware of it.


Monday, January 13, 2014

Unfortunately, almost every therapist today says they can do "cognitive-behavioral therapy". We are specific as to what we mean and do when we say we use cognitive-behavioral therapy. To treat social anxiety successfully, cognitive therapy must be specific to social anxiety and it must be comprehensive in nature. See

Thursday, January 9, 2014

Although social anxiety disorder and panic disorder are two separate, definable conditions, both of them are classified as anxiety disorders. There are major distinctions between the two.

Wednesday, January 8, 2014

All day, every day, life is like this. Fear. Apprehension. Avoidance. Pain. Anxiety about what you said. Fear that you said something wrong. Worry about others' disapproval. Afraid of rejection, of not fitting in. Anxious to enter a conversation, afraid you'll have nothing to talk about.

Tuesday, January 7, 2014

The human brain itself is "neutral". It doesn't know what is "right" or "wrong" for you regarding mental health. Sometimes, social anxiety is reinforced because we continue to believe irrational things from the past that "seem" correct, but are really not rational. It's important to open our mind up to new ideas and explanations concerning our belief systems, so we can learn to believe what is really rational.

Monday, January 6, 2014

"It's not fair I have social anxiety!" That is a true statement, but if you sit around in dejection saying it over and over, it doesn't help you get better. It may not be fair, but (unfortunately) that's the way it is. Get over social anxiety instead.

Saturday, January 4, 2014

Relax, focus outside yourself, engage with other people and other events. Focus on life and all that is going on around you. (Never focus inwardly).

Friday, January 3, 2014

The brain changes and we overcome social anxiety as we "overlearn" cognitive strategies that reduce anxiety. Repetition, reinforcement, and overlearning cognitive strategies...